Love of God motivating love of others must be at the core of our motives. Time is spent on others whom I should love, don't use it on yourself. We invest in those we love, our heart will follow our investments. We need to be an alert investigator, learning the needs of those whom we are to love. True love: God loved, God gave. The essence of love is giving, manifested by God giving, His giving the very b est, His only Son.